What doesn't kill us makes us : who we become after tragedy and trauma
(Book)

"A deep examination of what happens after life-altering events, from car accidents to incarceration, and how we forge new identities when our lives are cleaved irrevocably into a before and after "What doesn't kill us makes us stronger," the saying goes. But does it really? Tracing the lives of six people who have experienced catastrophic, life-changing events, journalist Mike Mariani explores the nuances of what happens after one's life is cleaved into a before and after. If what doesn't kill us doesn't necessarily make us stronger, he asks, what does it make us? When his own life was transformed by the diagnosis of a chronic illness, Mariani turned inward, changing his active existence into a more pensive one. In this ambitious work of reporting, he uses his own experience, as well as the lessons of medicine, literature, mythology, and religion, to tell the stories of people living what he terms "afterlives." Their experiences range from a paralyzing car crash to a personality-altering traumatic brain injury to an accidental homicide that resulted in a sentence of life imprisonment. Their "afterlives," Mariani argues, have supercharged their identities, forcing them to narrow and deepen their focus to find their sense of purpose-whether through academia or religion or helping others-in identities that have been struck by tragedy and then dramatically reinvented. Delving into lives we rarely see in such detail-lives filled with struggle, loss, perseverance, and triumph-Mariani brings us to the darkest aspects of human existence, only to show us just how much we are capable of becoming"--,Provided by publisher.